The Science and Practice of Starting Over

Find your way back
to yourself

A 90-day program to begin rebuilding yourself, and a life that finally feels like yours.

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Yang Yi (Jade) · Registered Psychologist · 20+ Years Experience · Lived Experience of Divorce

Science-Backed AHPRA Registered 90 Days · 4 Phases By Women, For Women
Why This Program Is Different
✦Evidence-Based Practice
✦Made for This Season of Life
✦Your Transformation Held in a Supportive Community

Yang Yi (Jade) and Allie Pepper
introduce Divorce to Shine

Individual results and experiences will vary. This program supports personal growth and self-leadership, it does not constitute psychological treatment or therapy.

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You're not alone

I see you,
even the parts
you're hiding

You're holding it together on the outside… but breaking on the inside
You keep replaying what happened, searching for the moment it went wrong
You question your worth, wondering if you were ever really enough
You don't know who you are without this relationship
You feel ashamed, as if the divorce is proof of something broken in you
You're exhausted by the grief, and quietly terrified that this might just be your life now

You're not broken. You're not a failure.
You are a woman responding to one of the most profound losses a human being can experience, and you deserve far more than just surviving it.

What if the worst thing that happened to you is actually the beginning of the best?

What you're going through is painful, deeply, biologically painful. Divorce isn't just heartbreak. It is a full-body biological event, your hormones, your immunity, your sleep, even your sense of who you are, all disrupted at once. That's not weakness. That's science.

But here's what the science also tells us: the human nervous system can regulate. The brain's predictions can be rewritten. The patterns that brought you here can be understood, and changed.

With the right support, this moment can become the most transformative of your life. Not because the pain disappears, but because you learn to understand it so deeply that it loses its power over you.


See How It Works
The Divorce to Shine Program

90 Days. 4 Phases.
One Complete Transformation

Each phase builds the foundation for the next

01 Phase One

Reset

Finally understand why your body and mind are reacting this way, and discover you're not broken. You're responding. Relief begins here.

Weeks 1 – 3
02 Phase Two

Understand

Answer the question that keeps you awake at night: 'Why did I end up here?' Trace the invisible patterns that have shaped every relationship you've had, and meet them with compassion instead of shame.

Weeks 4 – 6
03 Phase Three

Reclaim

Rediscover who you are beneath every role you've played. Rebuild self-trust. Set boundaries from your values, not from fear. The woman you actually are begins to emerge.

Weeks 7 – 9
04 Phase Four

Shine

Begin stepping into your future with greater clarity and growing confidence. Start designing the life and relationships you deserve, from a place of wholeness, not desperation.

Weeks 10 – 12
What makes this different

This isn't positive thinking.
It's the science of how humans actually transform

Every element of this program is grounded in peer-reviewed psychological and neuroscientific research. You're not a coaching project. You're a whole person, and this is built to match what you're actually going through.

01

Your Nervous System Comes First

Divorce puts your body into real biological stress, a physiological event, not a mindset problem. Using Polyvagal Theory, we address this first, because nothing else works until you feel safe.

02

Your Emotions Aren't Fixed

Science now tells us that emotions are not hardwired responses you're stuck with, they are constructed by your brain, and they can be changed. You have far more agency over how you feel than anyone has ever told you.

03

You're Not Who You Were, and That's the Point

This crisis isn't just a loss. It's an invitation to evolve beyond the version of yourself shaped by other people's expectations, and into someone who lives by her own values.

04

Understand Why You Loved the Way You Did

The patterns in your relationships didn't come from nowhere. They were shaped in childhood, and they've been quietly running every relationship since. Understanding this isn't about blame. It's about freedom.

05

The Science Says You Can Grow Through This

Harvard's longest-running happiness study found that the quality of our relationships, especially the one we have with ourselves, is the single greatest predictor of long-term wellbeing. This program is designed to get you there.

06

Tools That Meet You Where You Are

Real transformation doesn't happen only in the mind. EFT tapping, somatic grounding, journalling, visualisation, and values work, every practice in this program is chosen because it works in the body, not just the head.

Yang Yi (Jade), Registered Psychologist

Yang Yi (Jade)

Registered Psychologist 20+ Years Experience Lived Experience
About Your Guide

I know this journey, because I've walked it too

Yang Yi (Jade), Registered Psychologist

I'm Yang Yi (Jade), a registered psychologist with over 20 years of experience helping leaders navigate pressure, resilience, and rebuilding from the inside out.

But the most important thing I know about this journey, I learned from living it. Two years ago, my own marriage ended. I went from a registered psychologist who helped others build resilience, to a woman who couldn't get out of bed. I lost myself completely.

For two years, I carried the weight of failure, despair, and the quiet grief of not knowing who I was anymore. What got me through was the knowledge I had, and the slow, hard work of applying it to myself. And as I came out the other side, I realised: for many women, this journey doesn't have to take as long as it took me.

This program is the course I wish I'd had. It brings together everything I know as a psychologist and everything I've lived as a woman, so you don't have to spend years finding your way back to yourself.

It would be my honour to guide you on this journey, as a psychologist by training, and as a woman who's walked it herself.

Jane Cox, Lead Coach, University of Sydney Master's in Coaching Psychology

Jane Cox

ICF Member M. Coaching Psychology Meditation Teacher

Meet your co-facilitator

Jane Cox, Coach & ICF Member

I've known Jane for decades, long before this program existed. Her steadiness, her giving nature, and her hard-earned wisdom are part of what inspired me to design this program in the first place. So when I pictured who would hold the space for this journey with you, Jane was the first person I saw. I was thrilled when she said yes.

Jane brings 30 years of guiding people through life's hardest transitions, as a coach and member of the International Coaching Federation (ICF), with a Master's in Coaching Psychology from the University of Sydney, and as an accredited meditation teacher.

It will be a joy for you to experience her the way I have. Thank you for trusting us.

A Professional Perspective

What an elite
mountaineer sees
in this program

Allie Pepper has spent over two decades operating in the world's most extreme environments, summiting twelve of the world's 8000-metre peaks, most without supplemental oxygen. She knows what it means to rebuild yourself from the inside out, to navigate the second half of life with intention, and to lead from a place of hard-won self-knowledge.

When Allie reviewed the Divorce to Shine program, she recognised something she believes in deeply: that real resilience isn't about pushing through, it's about understanding yourself clearly enough to find your way through.

"The mountains have taught me that the inner work is always the hardest climb, and always the most important one."
Allie Pepper Elite High-Altitude Mountaineer · 12 × 8000m Summits · Leadership Speaker · Menopause Ambassador

Allie Pepper has not participated in the Divorce to Shine program. This is an independent professional perspective on the program's framework and approach.

A Free Gift For You

The Handbook I Wish I'd Had
During Divorce

What's Happening in Your Body and Brain, and Your First Steps Toward Steadiness

A free guide, written by a registered psychologist who has lived this herself, to help you begin understanding yourself more deeply: what's happening in your body and brain right now, why you feel the way you do, and your first steps toward finding steadiness again.

  • Your first 5 nervous system practices to start feeling steadier today
  • How to stop replaying the past and start building what's next
  • Plus a bonus: a conversation with Allie Pepper on rebuilding after her own divorce
✦ The Handbook
I Wish
I'd Had by Yang Yi (Jade)

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You've carried this long enough

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Please note: Divorce to Shine is a personal development and self-leadership program delivered by Yang Yi (Jade), Registered Psychologist (AHPRA). It is not psychological treatment, therapy, or a clinical mental health service. Participation does not establish a therapeutic relationship. Individual outcomes and experiences vary, the content of this website describes possibilities, not guaranteed results. This program is not suitable as a replacement for clinical mental health care. If you are in crisis, please contact Lifeline on 13 11 14 or speak with your GP.